Don’t be a microphone for someone else’s shame
By Hajrudin Redžović
Coldplay Concert. Stadium. Thousands of lights. Thousands of views. And – two people. Hugged. The camera zooms in. Chris Martin joked. The audience laughed. And in that second – boom – The invisible boundary of the private and public is burned to the ground. The world gets a new Viral Hit: Caught adulterers.
And yes, people are fast on the trigger. The opinions are frca as confetti. The courts are divided without an appeal. Andy Byron and Kristin Cabot, directors from the same US firm, become Public morality enemiesand Megan Kerrigan Byron – wife, mother, symbol of the issued woman – gets massive digital empathy. Rightly? Probably. But let’s stop.
And at the moment, if everyone would stick to the horns on his forehead and scream “caught!” Your voice came. Quiet. Female. Human.
Psychotherapist dr. sc. Vahida Djedovićwrites something that should come like a cold compress over the glowing forehead. “Is public embarrassment really justice, or another form of collective aggression?” – He asks us. And, to prostitute, broke up.
Because we didn’t just watch here them. We watched oneself. Your defeats. Its betrayal. Your closed rooms. We watched our own fears on the screen of the stadium, under the spotlights that do not heat, but burn.
Because cheating, my dear, is not a new dance on the flower. These are nightless nights. These are silences that last weeks. It’s a crackling between two people, where no more voice is heard. And when it breaks – people are wrong. Some wrong. Some public.
And what are we doing? Instead of looking at our marriages, your relationships, your cold … we throw ourselves on someone else. Because it is easier to make someone else’s shit than to clean.
This concert became a trial. Courtroom without a lawyer. Just a jury with cell phones. And without any minutes for “right to error”.
Dr. Djedović reminds us of what we forget in times when clicks are counted more than feelings:
“No one knows what happens between two people. And even less, what is missing between them four.“
Therefore, before you turn a finger in someone else’s face, ask yourself: Who was the last time hugging your pain?
And have you ever tried to understand before you condemned?
Because, love without truth is a lie, and the truth without empathy – it’s sadism.
Therefore, Don’t be a microphone for someone else’s shame. Be a megaphone for understanding.
Because when the camera catches one’s hand – your question is: What do I hold in my?
